Women's Work Is Never Done... At Least on This Topic

Somewhere in the fog of last week, I read the article by Michael Noer entitled Don't Marry a Career Woman.  When I read articles like this, my first reaction is to roll my eyes, sigh and say, "Here we go again."  But, I also suffer a delayed reaction of anger and panic because I have three daughters.  I worry that in this day and age there are still men (seemingly capable, intelligent, educated men) who retain an outdated (perhaps fantasty-based) idea of marriage. 

Perhaps Mr. Noer was only trying to be clever.  "What shall I write this week?  Oh, I know... I'm good with numbers.  Let me see how I can throw a bunch of disparate studies together.  Let's see what the numbers say... or rather, let's see what I can make the numbers say." 

Okay, that was bitchy of me.  But, you would expect that, right?  After all, I lean in a feminist direction.  According to many men and women, feminists are among other things, strident and bitchy.  And, I'm a career woman to boot. Though I am not married to him, I am one of his statistics, a woman who has grown dissatisfied with Mr. Noer. 

Ladies, no matter whom you marry, make sure you have a career or at least some training in something that will allow you to support yourself and your children. There are studies about the lives of women whose husbands leave them for other women they met in the workplace. The results aren't pretty.

And, Ladies, before marrying, read the other studies on "second shifts."  Your workload will increase exponentially if you work and have a household to run.  If you have children... forget about it. Now, there are good men out there who will partner with you equally, but I dare say there are those who will not.  Sometimes it is hard to tell how your man will turn out until after you're married. So hedge your bets. As the lawyers say, "Caveat emptor."

I'm not saying that women who have careers shouldn't marry. I am certainly not saying that women shouldn't marry at all. I like marriage... usually. What I am saying is that before you marry do your own research.  Look at the numbers... and not the numbers Mr. Noer has added up for us.

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Comments

[Sam]

I almost did not comment on this, but decided to add one last thought here. Perhaps the reason more women who have careers are leaving the men is because they are able to support themselves, where as, those women who have no profession to rely on stay with their partners even if the relationship has failed. The true statistic here is that more women today can stand on their own two feet when they need to. A marriage is a tough give and take no matter who you are and where you come from. My hats off to those who stay and make it work, but I am relieved that in today's world more women have the financial ability to leave abusive or cold relationships.
Sam